tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post4408382144567034464..comments2023-11-02T04:05:19.890-07:00Comments on The Happy Sad Mama: The Missing PieceCharlotte's Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06664161835198688326noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-52321931441330721452010-11-21T19:12:20.587-08:002010-11-21T19:12:20.587-08:00This is something to mull over.
But then I also t...This is something to mull over.<br /><br />But then I also thought, if this were something that you really really felt you needed, you would have googled it and found *that* blogger.<br /><br />I do feel lucky in that I got to walk this path with many mamas on a similar timeline - many of my fellow bloggers now have subsequent children the same age as mine - but also have stopped blogging due to time! The more active bloggers in my circle tend to be the ones still struggling to get pregnant again- and I sometimes feel like an interloper leaving comments for them.<br /><br />So, I don't know. Perhaps it is more important to have support in thought and orientation, not in time.Ya Chunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816837461370619194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-56816435901497775622010-11-14T23:29:48.039-08:002010-11-14T23:29:48.039-08:00Today I met a woman at my postpartum doula trainin...Today I met a woman at my postpartum doula training who lost her baby 40 years ago. Since then she has been a grief counselor, postpartum doula, birth doula, and now getting certified as a lactation consultant.<br /><br />Her first question to me when I told her of my loss was, "Do you have people in your life who support you?"Laurinda Reddighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00830476432659967073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-88098887075647321892010-11-10T09:13:52.618-08:002010-11-10T09:13:52.618-08:00We lost our daughter,Nevaeh, almost five years ago...We lost our daughter,Nevaeh, almost five years ago. I was just telling a friend yesterday I could not believe it had been five years. It seems like such a milestone. I still pause on the 9 and 10th of every month... I think I always will. <br /><br />Time has been so intense. I still have days that I cannot move and others that I am so full of joy and happiness. Our son loves his sister and it warms my heart that somehow through all of the pain we have been able to provide him with a place to have a relationship with his sister. <br /><br />My blog is only about three months old. Being a new blogger Im connecting with more families that are in the beginning stages of their grief. When I read some of their post my heart breaks and I am back holding our girl for the last time. I feel the devastation on such a raw level. I hope that they can read my blog and find some piece of something to hold onto... <br /><br />time does not heal the heart it simply puts space between that which have lost and that which we currently have. <br /><br />Your children are beautiful. I am sure they are proud of their mama and all she is doing in this world. <br /><br />Warmly,<br />MeghanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-50006873392264500212010-11-09T15:42:45.419-08:002010-11-09T15:42:45.419-08:00Can of worms, schworms. I love to mull over this s...Can of worms, schworms. I love to mull over this stuff. I thank you for it. <br />And the thing is, I DO feel so supported by everyone.. and even go so far, esp. with people like Sally whose circumstance match mine almost exactly, to feel just absolutely like peers-- but then it's true that there's this five year gap. Which in 20 years won't mean much, will it, Sally? (by then we will have visited lots- ocean be gone!)Charlotte's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06664161835198688326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-90399311127378986372010-11-09T12:50:40.734-08:002010-11-09T12:50:40.734-08:00i feel like i opened a huge can of worms for you, ...i feel like i opened a huge can of worms for you, carol. sorry about that (i am sometimes too inquisitive/analytical). but i'm glad to read this post and hear how you really feel about it. sending love.<br /><br />also, i remembered - i know - very peripherally - a woman who lost her first baby girl 5 years ago. she gave birth to her third child just this morning. i don't know if these are useful commonalities, but i am happy to connect the two of you. xoJennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17682133967979817385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-41522523700317955022010-11-09T11:50:34.611-08:002010-11-09T11:50:34.611-08:00You are braver for it. I cannot imagine where I wi...You are braver for it. I cannot imagine where I will be 7 years from now. Yesterday I wrote myself a letter to the 16 year old that I once was. It made me wonder what I would write to myself then years from now.<br /><br />I am thinking of you- I know you crave the support of someone who is as far out as you are but know that I am sending you support from a different place, and that I value your writings more than you can know.<br /><br />Love and grace- lleslie(cullensblessings)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02754403516288772463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-40756292807528871542010-11-09T08:37:32.306-08:002010-11-09T08:37:32.306-08:00I really hope you find her.
Much love,
Kimberly ...I really hope you find her.<br /><br />Much love,<br /><br />Kimberly Schildbach (from writing group many years ago) :)Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12818977090475736686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-58943729781633287742010-11-09T00:55:28.132-08:002010-11-09T00:55:28.132-08:00Such a good point Jenni has raised. I read a lot o...Such a good point Jenni has raised. I read a lot of loss blogs, but most have had losses in the last couple of years. I don't really know (in real life or in blog world) anyone else either who is as far out from their baby's death as you are.<br />You have been such a huge support to me, whether you know it or not. Through your beautiful words here, your heartfelt emails and on FB. I hope in some small way, on some days, I have been just half the support to you as you have been to me. <br />And like always, I wish we lived a whole lot closer! Like get-rid-of-the-Pacific-Ocean closer! I may not be seven and a half years out, but I feel I am on a similar path to you, just a few years behind. As tragic as our starts to motherhood were, I do hope my story continues like yours from now on.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.com