tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post4153480917958511316..comments2023-11-02T04:05:19.890-07:00Comments on The Happy Sad Mama: Head Hanging...Charlotte's Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06664161835198688326noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-9233994059259392212008-09-02T07:18:00.000-07:002008-09-02T07:18:00.000-07:00YES!!! You write exactly what has been in my own h...YES!!! You write exactly what has been in my own heart for the past month. Yes, I adore my children, both those I have gotten through birth, and the one that was a big bonus from my husband. And yet there's a gap, possibly left by miscarrying the twins, possibly there because, evan before that, I wanted another child. Possibly it's pure, unadulterated babylust. And we have made family decisions that I feel are right, that do not allow room for another baby. But there's still that space that aches, that leaves me defeated and bruises. Happy-sad. What a gorgeous description. Thank you.Pixie LaRougehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01270240055485984237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-86730161153936894822008-08-27T07:02:00.000-07:002008-08-27T07:02:00.000-07:00None of us are immune to sadness. But, sadness enr...None of us are immune to sadness. But, sadness enriches us. Pain brings us wisdom and empathy. <BR/><BR/>You write so eloquently. Thank you for sharing.Taking Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11582706569774851613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-74932045878853634652008-08-27T05:30:00.000-07:002008-08-27T05:30:00.000-07:00what i see around me are women who, despite easy c...what i see around me are women who, despite easy conceptions and pregnancies and births and alive babies, are also happy-sad mamas. it's easy for me to think about how i'm screwed up because of my infertility, high-tech interventions, triplets, dead baby, and on and on...but when i look around i have to admit that we are all happy-sad. i am coming to the conclusion that it's motherhood itself that creates it, not our tragedies. i just have something to point to and blame for my happy-sadness, while other mamas i know just feel guilty and certifiable. it's certainly not what it's cracked up to be, and leaves me wondering if it would be different in a culture where the REALNESS of being/becoming a mother was embraced and acknowledged.<BR/><BR/>well, either way, it's an impossible decision to live with: another one or not? i don't know how people decide.charmedgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12317107200577724625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-60936947353867982702008-08-26T21:20:00.000-07:002008-08-26T21:20:00.000-07:00Carol, I would say that since you don't want to be...Carol, I would say that since you don't want to be getting pregnant right now to preserve Charlotte's month, then give yourself a break this month and maybe even next month and just start again in a couple months. That's not too long and then you can have a rest that's finite. Maybe that will help? (this coming from me, the person who doesn't even like to wait for the water to boil to make pasta:)Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06658154113502239383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-40968995555530456032008-08-26T19:55:00.000-07:002008-08-26T19:55:00.000-07:00Oh, Carol, you are so beautiful...Oh, Carol, you are so beautiful...Pen In Cheekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14672806851544482730noreply@blogger.com