tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post2793774340452562602..comments2023-11-02T04:05:19.890-07:00Comments on The Happy Sad Mama: Charlotte's Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06664161835198688326noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-73581376879222295622008-11-07T16:55:00.000-08:002008-11-07T16:55:00.000-08:00Thank you, thank you, thank you.My younger brother...Thank you, thank you, thank you.<BR/><BR/>My younger brother, D, came out of the closet when I was 19 or so. Besides myself, my grandmother was the only one who continued to love my brother without question, to support him.<BR/><BR/>My family disowned him for some time and eventually came around. They even took "some interest" in gay rights and eventually "welcomed" his long-term partner, M, into the family. For a long time though my father refused to really address M personally, or to refer to him in any kind of way that let people know he was "related" to our family, even if only by love. Measures would come up regarding gays and education, marriage, civil rights, etc. My family would set and discuss them in the same close minded way as if D wasn't gay.<BR/><BR/>Finally I had it and I explained to them that most of those rules were created out of fear and hate and were based on out assumptions that gays had agendas, and were some how perverted, and that any time they supported one like that they weren't truly accepting D for who we know him to be. It had to be all or nothing. It was a hard conversation and it has been a hard road for some family members. My paternal grandparents still have shut him out of their lives. I know that it shook my parents faith and it is hard to look at our prejudices but we must.<BR/><BR/>And I have never been more proud of my parents than I was when they made it a PRIORITY to drive to Canada and be witness to D and M's marriage.<BR/><BR/>I hope we wake up some day... I myself am excited that we have a president-elect who is black but we have to keep moving forward, not use this as an excuse to say "see, we're not so bad"Henniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13619441212339613269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-46163091667735856552008-11-07T09:16:00.000-08:002008-11-07T09:16:00.000-08:00I don't even think it's the 'right to be married' ...I don't even think it's the 'right to be married' as much as the right to share health coverage and be able to both make decisions for their children. When the other partner is not recognized, it can cause huge problems if a member of the family is in the hospital. It's more important that just being married for love. They know they love each other regardless, but it's the rights that come along with that marriage that matter the most.Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06658154113502239383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-19245536519265791792008-11-07T09:01:00.000-08:002008-11-07T09:01:00.000-08:00Carol, I completely agree. People are such hypocr...Carol, I completely agree. People are such hypocrites. I guess freedom is only for straight people.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02338130051182407335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-19350850987921186132008-11-07T08:46:00.000-08:002008-11-07T08:46:00.000-08:00I am right there with all of you, and sickened by ...I am right there with all of you, and sickened by the outcome of prop 8. I would appreciate some clarification as well, because it seems devoid of sense to me. One of my closest friends is gay, and it breaks my heart that should he fall in love just like my husband and I did, and want to marry, he wont be able to. I cry inside for him and all homosexuals, I am angry.<BR/><BR/>It stems from people believing homosexuality is a "choice". Well I have to say...I personally can't remember the day I said to myself "hmm I like boys instead of girls, I am gonna go with that."<BR/><BR/>P.S. I hopped over here from Erin's blog, I have been reading in the shadows for a little while, you are an exquisite writer!Aubreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14984112705007749126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-62328742355813997152008-11-07T07:31:00.000-08:002008-11-07T07:31:00.000-08:00AMEN! I am also pissed off about this "decision" i...AMEN! I am also pissed off about this "decision" in CA! It's beyond rediculous!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06959816794813024196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-47608952558621117022008-11-07T06:56:00.000-08:002008-11-07T06:56:00.000-08:00This is one of those things that I just cannot wra...This is one of those things that I just cannot wrap my brain around. The whole idea that marriage has to be restricted to males and females "in order to maintain the sanctity of the institution" just doesn't make sense to me. My closest friend from college is gay and I would LOVE it if someone could explain to me how HER CHOICE to get married in ANYWAY affects the relationship I have with my husband! How does HER CHOICE IN PARTNERS at all change the "sanctity" of my heterosexual relationship and my marriage? Are Chris and I headed for doom because SHE wants to marry a SHE? I just don't get it! Anyone who can explain it to me, please do!Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237529515432696063.post-72278104491170801702008-11-07T06:22:00.000-08:002008-11-07T06:22:00.000-08:00YES! Thank you!YES! Thank you!Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644376488664527391noreply@blogger.com